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Online dating (or Internet dating) is a system that enables strangers to find and introduce themselves to new personal connections over the Internet, usually with the goal of developing personal, romantic, or sexual relationships. An online dating service is a company that provides specific mechanisms (generally websites or applications) for online dating through the use of Internet-connected personal computers or mobile devices. Such companies offer a wide variety of unmoderated matchmaking services, most of which are profile-based.

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Online dating services allow users to become “members” by creating a profile and uploading personal information including (but not limited to) age, gender, sexual orientation, location, and appearance. Most services also encourage members to add photos or videos to their profile. Once a profile has been created, members can view the profiles of other members of the service, using the visible profile information to decide whether or not to initiate contact. Most services offer digital messaging, while others provide additional services such as webcasts, online chat, and telephone chat (VOIP), and message boards. Members can constrain their interactions to the online space, or they can arrange a date to meet in person.

A great diversity of online dating services currently exists. Some have a broad membership base of diverse users looking for many different types of relationships. Other sites target highly specific demographics based on features like shared interests, location, religion, or relationship type. Online dating services also differ widely in their revenue streams. Some sites are completely free and depend on advertising for revenue. Others utilize the freemium revenue model, offering free registration and use, with optional, paid premium services. Still, others rely solely on paid membership subscriptions.

Opinions and usage of online dating services also differ widely. A 2005 study of data collected by the Pew Internet & American Life Project found that individuals are more likely to use an online dating service if they use the Internet for a greater number of tasks, and less likely to use such a service if they are trusting of others. It is possible that the mode of online dating resonates with some participants’ conceptual orientation towards the process of finding a romantic partner. That is, online dating sites use the conceptual framework of a “marketplace metaphor” to help people find potential matches, with layouts and functionalities that make it easy to quickly browse and select profiles in a manner similar to how one might browse an online store. Under this metaphor, members of a given service can both “shop” for potential relationship partners and “sell” themselves in hopes of finding a successful match.

Trends

Social trends

At the end of November 2004, there were 844 lifestyle and dating sites, a 38% increase since the start of the year, according to Hit wise Inc. The stigma associated with online dating dropped over the years and people view online dating more positively. The 2006 Pew Internet & American Life Project on Online Dating noted an increase in usage of online dating sites by Americans to pursue their romantic interests. About one in ten respondents reported visiting these online dating websites. In 2005–2012, about 34.95% of Americans reported meeting their spouses online. The 2016 Pew Research Center’s survey reveals that the usage of online dating sites by American adults increased from 9% in 2013 to 12% in 2015. Further, during this period, the usage among 18- to 24-year-olds tripled, while that among 55- to 65-year-olds doubled.

Online daters may have more liberal social attitudes compared to the general population in the United States. According to a 2015 study by the Pew Research Center, 80% of the users, and 55% of non-users said that online dating sites are a good way to meet potential partners. In addition, respondents felt that online dating is easier, more efficient than other methods, and gives access to a larger pool of potential partners. Increased dating and marriage outside traditional social circles may be a contributing factor to coincident societal changes, including rising rates of interracial marriage. On the other hand, about 45% respondents felt that online dating is more dangerous compared to other methods. Views on online dating were similar across genders, with women expressing more concerns about safety than men.

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Niche dating sites

Sites with specific demographics have become popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential matches. Successful niche sites pair people by race, sexual orientation or religion. In March 2008, the top 5 overall sites held 7% less market share than they did one year ago while the top sites from the top five major niche dating categories made considerable gains. Niche sites cater to people with special interests, such as sports fans, racing and automotive fans, medical or other professionals, people with political or religious preferences (e.g., Hindu, Jewish, Christian, Muslim, etc.), people with medical conditions (e.g., HIV+, obese), or those living in rural farm communities.

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Online introduction services

In 2008, a variation of the online dating model emerged in the form of introduction sites, where members have to search and contact other members, who introduce them to other members whom they deem compatible. Introduction sites differ from the traditional online dating model and attracted a large number of users and significant investor interest.

Economic trends

Since 2003, several free dating sites, operating on ad based-revenue rather than monthly subscriptions, have appeared and become increasingly popular. Other partially free online dating services offer only limited privileges for free members, or only for a brief period. Although some sites offer free trials and/or profiles, most memberships can cost upwards of $60 per month.

In 2008, online dating services in the United States generated $957 million in revenue.

In Eastern Europe, popular sites offer full access to messaging and profiles, but provide additional services for pay, such as prioritizing profile position, removing advertisements, and giving paying users access to a more advanced search engine. Such sites earn revenue from a mix of advertising and sale of additional options. This model also allows users to switch between free and paying status at will, with sites accepting a variety of online currencies and payment options.

Most free dating websites depend on advertising revenue, using tools such as Google AdSense and affiliate marketing. Since advertising revenues are modest compared to membership fees, this model requires a large number of page views to achieve profitability. However, Sam Yagan describes dating sites as ideal advertising platforms because of the wealth of demographic data made available by users.

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Controversy

Trust and safety

There are mixed opinions regarding the safety of online dating. Over 50% of research participants in a 2011 study did not view online dating as a dangerous activity, whereas 43% thought that online dating involved risk. Because online dating takes place in virtual space, it is possible for profile information to be misrepresented or falsified. While some sites conduct background checks on members, many do not, resulting in some uncertainty around members’ identities. For instance, some profiles may not represent real humans but rather “bait profiles” placed online by site owners to attract new paying members or “spam profiles” created by advertisers to market services and products.

Profiles created by real humans also have the potential to be problematic. For example, online dating sites may expose more female members in particular to stalking, fraud, and sexual violence by online predators. A less malicious form of misrepresentation is that members may lie about their height, weight, age, or marital status in an attempt to market or brand themselves in a particular way. Users may also carefully manipulate profiles as a form of impression management. Online dating site members may try to balance an accurate representation with maintaining their image in a desirable way.

One study found that nine out of ten participants had lied on at least one attribute, though lies were often slight; weight was the most lied about attribute, and age was the least lied about. Furthermore, knowing a large amount of superficial information about a potential partner’s interests may lead to a false sense of security when meeting up with a new person. Gross misrepresentation may be less likely on matrimonial sites than on casual dating sites. Some dating services have been created specifically for those living with HIV and other STIs in an effort to eliminate the need to lie about one’s health in order to find a partner.

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Media coverage of crimes related to online dating may also contribute to perceptions of its risks.[citation needed] However, online dating may also have advantages over conventional (offline) dating in that it offers unprecedented access to potential partners for singles who otherwise would not have such access.

The emergence of dating sites that promote adultery, such as Ashley Madison, has stirred some controversy. Marriage breakups happened in about 6% of online couples, compared to 7.6% of offline ones.  Mean marital satisfaction scores were 5.64 and 5.48 for the online and offline couples, respectively.

Billing

Online subscription-based services can suffer from complaints about billing practices. Some online dating service providers may have fraudulent membership fees or credit card charges. Some sites do not allow members to preview available profiles before paying a subscription fee. Furthermore, different functionalities may be offered to members who have paid or not paid for subscriptions, resulting in some confusion around who can view or contact whom.

Consolidation within the online dating industry has led to different newspapers and magazines now advertising the same website database under different names. In the UK, for example, Time Out (“London Dating”), The Times (“Encounters”), and The Daily Telegraph (“Kindred Spirits”), all offer differently named portals to the same service—meaning that a person who subscribes through more than one publication has unwittingly paid more than once for access to the same service.

Imbalanced gender ratios

On any given dating site, the sex ratio is commonly unbalanced. A website may have two women for every man, but they may be in the 35+ range, while the men are generally under 35. Little is known about the sex ratio controlled for age. EHarmony’s membership is about 57% female and 43% male, whereas the ratio at Match.com is about the reverse of that. When one gets into the specialty niche websites where the primary demographic is male, one typically gets a very unbalanced ratio of male to female or female to male.

Studies have suggested that men are far more likely to send messages on dating sites than women. In addition, men tend to message the most attractive women regardless of their own attractiveness. This leads to the most attractive women on these sites receiving an overwhelming number of messages, which can in some cases result in them leaving the site.

There is some evidence that there may be differences in how women online rate male attractiveness as opposed to how men rate female attractiveness. The distribution of ratings given by men of female attractiveness appears to be the normal distribution, while ratings of men given by women are highly skewed, with 80% of men rated as below average. This shows that women are genuinely more picky than men when it comes to the appearance of online dating websites.

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Discrimination

Gay rights groups have complained that certain websites that restrict their dating services to heterosexual couples are discriminating against homosexuals. Homosexual customers of the popular eHarmony dating website have made many attempts to litigate discriminatory practices.[31] eHarmony was sued in 2007 by a lesbian claiming that “such outright discrimination is hurtful and disappointing for a business open to the public in this day and age.” In light of discrimination by sexual orientation by dating websites, some services such as GayDar.net and Chemistry.com cater more to homosexual dating.

In addition, many sites require members to specify what sex they are looking for without having the option “both”, which complicates things for bisexuals. Many sites also require members to specify themselves as either “male” or “female”, complicating matters for transgender and intersex individuals.

Less than half of Internet daters are open to dating people of all races. Consistent with the social exchange and group position theories, Asians, Latinos, and blacks are more open to dating whites than whites are to dating them. Of those who state a racial preference, 97% of white men exclude black women, 48% exclude Latinas, and 53% exclude Asian women. In contrast, white men are excluded by 76% of black women, 33% Latinas, and only 11% Asian women. Similarly, 92% of white women exclude black men, 77% exclude Latinos, and 93% exclude Asian men. 71% of black men, 31% of Latinos, and 36% of Asian men excluded white women.

Lawsuits filed against online dating services

A 2011 class action lawsuit alleged Match.com failed to remove inactive profiles, did not accurately disclose the number of active members, and does not police its site for fake profiles;[36] the inclusion of expired and spam profiles as valid served to both artificially inflate the total number of profiles and camouflage a skewed gender ratio in which active users were disproportionately single males.[37] The suit claimed up to 60 percent were inactive profiles, fake or fraudulent users.[38] Some of the spam profiles were alleged to be using images of porn actresses, models, or people from other dating sites.[39] Former employees alleged Match routinely and intentionally over-represented the number of active members on the website and a huge percentage were not real members but ‘filler profiles’.

A 2012 class action against Successful Match ended with a November 2014 California jury award of $1.4 million in compensatory damages and $15 million in punitive damages. Successful Match operated a dating site for people with STDs, Positive Singles, which is advertised as offering a “fully anonymous profile” which is “100% confidential”. The company failed to disclose that it was placing those same profiles on a long list of affiliate site domains such as GayPozDating.com, AIDSDate.com, HerpesInMouth.com, ChristianSafeHaven.com, MeetBlackPOZ.com, HIVGayMen.com, STDHookup.com, BlackPoz.com, and PositivelyKinky.com. This falsely implied that those users were black, Christian, gay, HIV-positive or members of other groups with which the registered members did not identify. The jury found Positive Singles guilty of fraud, malice, and oppression as the plaintiffs’ race, sexual orientation, HIV status, and religion were misrepresented by exporting each dating profile to niche sites associated with each trait.

In 2013, a former employee sued adultery website Ashley Madison claiming repetitive strain injuries as creating 1000 fake profiles in one three week span “required an enormous amount of keyboarding” which caused the worker to develop severe pain in her wrists and forearms. Ashley Madison’s parent company, Avid Life Media, countersued in 2014, alleging the worker kept confidential documents, including copies of her “work product and training materials.” The firm claimed the fake profiles were for “quality assurance testing” to test a new Brazilian version of the site for “consistency and reliability.”

In January 2014, an already-married Facebook user attempting to close a pop-up advertisement for Zoosk.com found that one click instead copied personal info from her Facebook profile to create an unwanted online profile seeking a mate, leading to a flood of unexpected responses from amorous single males.

In 2014, It’s Just Lunch International was the target of a New York class action alleging unjust enrichment as IJL staff relied on a uniform, misleading script which informed prospective customers during initial interviews that IJL already had at least two matches in mind for those customers’ first dates regardless of whether or not that was true.[53]

In 2014, the US Federal Trade Commission fined UK-based JDI Dating (a group of 18 websites, including Cupidswand.com and FlirtCrowd.com) over US$600000, finding that “the defendants offered a free plan that allowed users to set up a profile with personal information and photos. As soon as a new user set up a free profile, he or she began to receive messages that appeared to be from other members living nearby, expressing romantic interest or a desire to meet. However, users were unable to respond to these messages without upgrading to a paid membership … the messages were almost always from fake, computer-generated profiles — ‘Virtual Cupids’ — created by the defendants, with photos and information designed to closely mimic the profiles of real people.” The FTC also found that paid memberships were being renewed without client authorization.

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In 2017 Darlene Daggett QVC’s president for U.S. commerce from 2002 to 2007, filed a lawsuit against matchmaking agency Kelleher International. The company, owned by Amber Kelleher-Andrews agreed to settle within hours of Daggett filing the lawsuit. Neither talked about the case, citing a non-disclosure agreement, but Daggett’s lawsuit gives plenty of detail about her grievances with the California-based company. ‘Due to her senior level position in a local firm, [she] felt that social dating sites did not provide her with the degree of screening and privacy she was looking for,’ the lawsuit states. She opted in for the company’s most expensive plan, the $150,000 CEO level, which guaranteed her matches from around the world and the personal attention of Kelleher-Andrews. But Daggett says she did not get what she paid for. Instead, she suffered brief romantic entanglements with increasingly disastrous men.

Government regulation

U.S. government regulation of dating services began with the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA) which took effect in March 2007 after a federal judge in Georgia upheld a challenge from the dating site European Connections. The law requires dating services meeting specific criteria—including having as their primary business to connect U.S. citizens/residents with foreign nationals—to conduct, among other procedures, sex offender checks on U.S. customers before contact details can be provided to the non-U.S. citizen. In 2008, the state of New Jersey passed a law which requires the sites to disclose whether they perform background checks.

In the People’s Republic of China, transnational matchmaking is illegal. The Philippines prohibits the business of organizing or facilitating marriages between Filipinas and foreign men under the Republic Act 6955 (the Anti-Mail-Order Bride Law) of June 13, 1990; this law is routinely circumvented by basing mail-order bride websites outside the country.

Singapore’s Social Development Network is the governmental organization facilitating dating activities in the country. Singapore’s government has actively acted as a matchmaker for singles for the past few decades, and thus only 4% of Singaporeans have ever used an online dating service, despite the country’s high rate of internet penetration.

In December 2010, a New York State Law called the “Internet Dating Safety Act” (S5180-A) went into effect that requires online dating sites with customers in New York State to warn users not to disclose personal information to people they do not know.

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What Type of Partner do you want? 

The idea that opposites attract is highly overrated. In fact, it’s often those whom with we share things in common that we mesh with best. The things couples share with each other may not be super apparent to the outside eye, but usually, things like values and core beliefs are things lasting couples have a similar understanding of.

When it comes to dating, the things you have in common often set the tone for your first date, as you share stories and find commonality in that which is familiar. Dating sites know this — that’s why you’re so often paired with others with whom you share the same interests. But rather than simply being paired based on interests you typed out on your profile or selected from a list or drop-down menu, wouldn’t it be convenient if you could go to dating sites designed specifically for your interests and populated by other people who share them? That’s where niche dating sites come into play.

These online dating sites level off the playing field by offering an online dating experience specifically for users with certain background or likings. Your background can be anything from the area you live, such as rural areas, to the professional life you’ve chosen, such as military members; your interests can range from your downtime activities, such as gaming, to your active activities, such as your fitness routine.

Using niche dating sites allows you to more quickly sort through potential matches, without the need to put millions of filters into your search. Their uniqueness naturally attracts an audience with shared interests or background, which, if you share that interest or background, greatly increases your chances of finding a good match. They’re best for individuals who really live their lives based on a certain idea or theme and want to find others who hold the same thing in high regard.

If you have a certain background or hobby that you just can’t image living your life — much less sharing your life with someone — without, then read on to discover some of the best niche dating sites available right now.

If You Want To Date… Bikers

If you’re a motorcycle enthusiast, you’ll find no better place to discover those with the same interest than on Biker Planet. The niche dating site caters to single people looking for relationships and offers extensive profile options. Profiles have a variety of open-ended questions in which you can fully express yourself and your interests, including some aligned with the theme of the site, such as ‘What is your favorite place or road to ride?’ and ‘What’s your favorite biker event to attend?’.

Beyond the profile, Bike Planet offers a fully customizable online dating experience. You can choose who can contact you based on things like gender and age, and even customize what shows up on your newsfeed. You can find others through your home screen or by searching, or if you like to add a little spice to your online dating experience you can play Rapid Match, which is hot or not like matching game. Easily contact members individually by sending messages and flirts or communicate in more of a group setting in one of the many biker-themed forums.

If You Want To Date… Single Parents

While most any dating site accommodates or accepts single parents as members, Single Parents Meet is entirely dedicated to single with children. Understanding that users of the site have kids, can help get that conversation out of the way and allow you to focus more on finding matches based on common interests, beyond your children. As another site that acts just as much as a community site as an online dating site, Single Parents Meet doesn’t offer a ton of extra incentives but more so provides a safe and transparent platform for those with kids to meet and make connections.

You can communicate with the standard options of messaging, chatting, or winking, but you can also show interests by playing the sites featured hot or not like the game, or browsing community updates in your newsfeed style homepage. The registration process is super straightforward, but that doesn’t mean profiles are limited. You still have options to answer questions about your hobbies and things such as how romantic you are as well as fill in open-ended text boxes if you simply have more to say than what the signup questionnaire asks. Unlike some other niche dating site, Single Parents Meet does have a matching system and displays who you are most compatible with under Today’s Picks.

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If You Want To Date… Single Parents

While most any dating site accommodates or accepts single parents as members, Single Parents Meet is entirely dedicated to single with children. Understanding that users of the site have kids, can help get that conversation out of the way and allow you to focus more on finding matches based on common interests, beyond your children. As another site that acts just as much as a community site as an online dating site, Single Parents Meet doesn’t offer a ton of extra incentives but more so provides a safe and transparent platform for those with kids to meet and make connections.

You can communicate with the standard options of messaging, chatting, or winking, but you can also show interests by playing the sites featured hot or not like the game, or browsing community updates in your newsfeed style homepage. The registration process is super straightforward, but that doesn’t mean profiles are limited. You still have options to answer questions about your hobbies and things such as how romantic you are as well as fill in an open-ended text box if you simply have more to say than what the signup questionnaire asks. Unlike some other niche dating site, Single Parents Meet does have a matching system and displays who you are most compatible with under Today’s Picks.

If You Want To Date… Gamers

Gamer Dating is gamer-themed dating site created by and for gamers. Immediately upon landing on the site, you’ll see a nice incentive to sign up: a free game with registration. You can search, browse and find matches all for free, but to communicate you do need a paid subscription. The site gives you a personal library where you can add (and show off) your favorite games, which makes for great conversation starters.

The site has a quick and easy signup process that you can further expedite by simply connecting your Facebook account. Along with a search option the site has various matchmaking tools to help you find what the site calls your ‘Perfect Player 2’. It acts as much as a community site as a dating site, which can be a nice subtlety if you’re not fully sure you are ready to enter the world of online dating. If that’s the case you can simply create an account and make connections — romantic or otherwise — by being active on the various gamer-themed forums.

If You Want To Date… Wealthy People

Millionaire Match is a luxury dating site for wealthy individuals. You don’t have to make a certain amount to sign up, but if you identify yourself as a millionaire in your registration process, you must submit a request to speak to a Special Members Director to help set up an account and fill out the profile (and if you don’t have time to do that, the site can assign someone to do it for you). The site really emphasizes verification, and beneath each profile photo, a small badge can appear, proving a verified photo, age, occupation, education, or millionaire status. This rather uncommon verification process produces a site with members who are much higher in quality than those you would find on your typical online dating site.

The niche site lets you communicate via email or winking, but you can also add profiles to your favorite section or add a personal note for yourself on each profile. The site has a luxury blog section where conversations can spark along with the option for video introductions on your profile and live millionaire match counselors.

If You Want To Date… Rural People And Farmers

Farmers Only is a niche dating site for those who consider themselves to be rural folk, rather than the city-dwelling type. The dating site gained major traction from a series of infamous YouTube commercials that ended up attracting a massive audience base of over 5 million members. The site allows you to discover others through searching or a hot or not like matching game. The site may not have any advanced matching algorithm, but the search is extensive, essentially allowing you to search by every profile field.

To communicate you have an inbox, along with a FarmPhone option, which turns your messages into the text to expedite the communication process. To act more passively you can also send flirts and browse who has viewed your profile. The site has a super-quick, 4 question registration process, that makes it easy to get setup and partaking in online dating with other rural folks almost instantly.

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If You Want To Date… Members Of The Military

Military Cupid is designed for former or current military members, and non-military singles (who are mostly women) looking to date them. It’s a regular dating site with all the common bells and whistles, except it’s aimed at military members. A few military-specific features including being able to specify rank, unit, or decorations. The matching system pairs you with other based on specific features you set, such as age or proximity. One unique and well-thought-out feature is the option to search by the branch of services, such as army, navy, or coast guard.  Communication takes place via email, text chat, or even video chat if you’re looking to speed things up.

The site takes above after security members to ensure all users are safe. Members can scan a government-issued ID to verify their identity and others can see who has and has not taken this step. The signup process is quick and easy, but you can make your profile as extensive as you wish, choosing from over interests and activities.

If You Want to Meet… People Who Share Your Sexual Preferences

If specific sexual preferences are a total dealmaker or breaker for you, head on over to casual hookup site Adult Friend Finder. The site caters to a variety of sexual preferences and likes including those who approach casual hookups as a single heterosexual man or woman, a transsexual, transvestite, or transgender individual, a couple (man and woman, woman and woman, or man and man), a group, and any mixture of these categories. The site is extremely hook-up focused, filled with uncensored images, videos, groups, adult movies, and even a Sex Academy, which allows you to proudly display badges after you pass each sex-focused ‘class’.

Perhaps one of the best aspects of Adult Friend Finder is the Kink section. It allows you to pick from a list of certain kinks you are into and add them from your profile. Even better, there’s a unique ‘Kink Search’ which allows you to filter members solely based on certain kinks that align well with your own. And if you just want to skip to find the hottest members on the site, there’s convenient What’s Hot section that contains the hottest photos, videos, albums, and members, based on other members’ votes.

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